Sex addiction is described by compulsive sexual behaviour that continues despite negative consequences. Many individuals find themselves repeating past traumas within an addictive pattern and until they seek help are unable to change this vicious cycle. This makes a happy and productive life impossible and there is a cascade of turmoil around this addiction. Left untreated, sex addiction may escalate and results in life changing circumstances. Relationships are destroyed, physical consequences like STD's begin to occur and even legal problems can become a part of the cycle. Sex begins to be the drug that many use to escape the pain and turmoil that addiction has brought to their lives. Treated individuals are able to live happy and more balanced and connected lives.
Signs & Symptoms of Sexual Addiction
For Spouses or Partners
If your spouse or partner is struggling with sex addiction, don't neglect yourself.
My work includes working with the partners of those who struggle with sex addiction. It is often those living with addiction that go looking for help or information about what is occurring in their home. If you are the partner or spouse of a sex addict, you also need support.
Living with addiction and mental illness is traumatic and many individuals wonder how they ever found themselves in so much turmoil, grief and betrayal. Living with any addicted person is traumatic and crazy making. It is not unusual for family members to experience symptoms that are typical of trauma reactions. These individuals often suffer in silence and secrecy until life literally blows up.
It is overwhelming and seems impossible to deal with the crisis that accompanies addiction. It is even tougher when loved ones cannot see the damage their behaviour is causing. It is so important for family members to find the support and guidance they need for themselves and to deal with the hurt, confusion and trauma that has been associated with this exposure. It is so important to realize you are not along and that you are important to realize you are not alone and that you are important and deserving help.
Therapy for the family members is designed to help individuals develop a plan for the future, to heal from the relational crisis and to begin to develop safety in existing and future relationships. This can be difficult and a step by step process is used to support you while you become an empowered individual.
It is imperative that family members understand the faulty thinking that helps keep them trapped in unhealthy relationships that do not change. Feelings of worthlessness and failure can overwhelm family members and challenging these false beliefs is key to recovery. Gradually individuals are able to make informed decisions based in health and hope. As you begin to resolve the issues related to your family members addiction you will make changes that will improve many areas of your life.